A couple of weeks ago I posted an emotional “woe is me” video on FB about my mixed emotions of Zach leaving home. I asked for suggestions on how to master the emotional rollercoaster of emotions I was having. Feelings of joy mixed with sadness became a bit overwhelming as the tears flowed on live video — not really my best moment and it was quite embarrassing to Zach. That video has caused some emotional upheaval for him — leaving home is a big step and a clinging mom does not help.
Many people responding to that video wth great insight and suggestions and thought I would share thinking it might help you if your emotions are doing that flip flop roller coaster ride:
Key Take Aways:
- Celebrate your success in raising children who are prepared to live independently
- Be happy and proud of your child moving on to independence
- Be happy and proud of you for your job as a parent
- Find ways to appreciate you with your new time freedom
- Reframe your thinking from “empty nest” to “job well done”
- Get a pet
- Turn up the music in your home
- Start a new project
- Plan an adventure
- Leave the house daily
- Start a new hobby
- Refresh your relationship with your spouse
Since that embarrassing soul bearing video Bill and I have taken a trip to Florida, have enjoyed a few dinners sitting on the floor in front of the fireplace, and are looking forward to watching Zach excel in his dreams. We all have new milestones planned for our lives. I hope to let this wonderful young man fly without imposing guilt on him — my job is to let this young man be and do who he is meant to be. I know that Bill and I have given him the tools and values for his success. This is a time of celebration for all of us and it is actually quite exciting to see what the next chapter in our lives brings.
Essential oils that have helped me manage my rollercoaster emotions these past days have been: Abundance, Joy, Orange, Transformation, and Valor. I diffuse and or wear one of these Essential Oils every day.
How have you reframed the next chapter in your life since your children have left home?